Same Page checks four areas that research ties to how new relationships go. Where this is going: couples who decide their big steps together, instead of sliding into them, tend to build steadier commitment (Stanley, Rhoades & Markman). How you fight and make up: starting gently, repairing fast and staying calm enough to listen (Gottman Institute, including its 12-year study of same-sex couples). Closeness and trust: turning toward each other's small bids for attention, and saying appreciation out loud. You two vs. the noise: the extra stress same-sex couples can face as a couple, from family to being out (Meyer; LeBlanc, Frost & Wight).

A 2020 study that pooled 43 couples studies from 29 labs found the strongest predictors of how a relationship feels are things like feeling sure your partner is committed, feeling appreciated, sexual satisfaction and how you handle conflict (Joel et al., PNAS). How alike two people are mattered much less. So this quiz looks at what you two do, and shows where you see things the same way and where you don't.

Your result is a starting point for a conversation. It's not a diagnosis, a grade or a prediction. Coaching with Coach J Will is not therapy. If you're dealing with a mental-health concern, please reach out to a licensed professional. If you ever feel unsafe with a partner, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is free and confidential, 24/7: 1-800-799-7233 or thehotline.org.